SE LE ASPETTATIVE NON SONO DESIDERI MA CATENE

Me lo ricordo benissimo, quel giorno, perché ero in ospedale a fianco di mia figlia nata da poche ore. In camera con me una primipara con il suo piccolo Matteo.

Era l’ora delle visite e i due bebè dormivano beatamente quando la stanza, con l’arrivo dei nonni paterni e del padre di Matteo, si riempì di chiacchiere e regali.

Quando il piccolo si svegliò, la madre lo prese in braccio dicendo: «Nonni, vi presento Matteo». La risposta dell’anziano patriarca in doppio petto blu, mi lasciò senza parole, ma non senza pensieri.

Disse: «Benarrivato Matteo, anzi, ingegner Matteo» aggiungendo che, in una famiglia di ingegneri, era il traguardo minimo che ci si potesse aspettare. La madre del piccolo abbassò lo sguardo velato di tristezza e, mentre marito e suocera tacevano rassegnati, il nonno, impettito, sorrideva soddisfatto a tutto campo.


Io osservavo la culla del più giovane ingegnere che avessi mai conosciuto e mi immaginavo cosa sarebbe successo se anche lui, come Lorenzo, avesse disatteso i diktat familiari.

Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do. Steve Jobs

Cancer is a natural phenomenon you can live with and it can heal itself. It’s confirmed by a Swiss research By Edward Campbell - Posted on January 4, 2014 What if you could live with cancer? The question sounds provocative, but the answer is fascinating: yes, you can. Do you want evidence of it? During the 8th National Congress of homeopathic medicine in Verona (1) , held in November 2008 , results were presented of autopsies performed in Switzerland on corpses of dead people not for disease - for example, in a car accident - and the results proved that many of them had one or more tumors, but they did not know they have them. This specific investigation revealed something shocking : 38% of women (between 40 and 50 years old) had a breast tumor (in situ); 48% of men over the age of 50 had a tumor (in situ ) to the prostate; 100 % of women and men over the age of 50 had a tumor (in situ) to the thyroid. A tumor in situ means a closed carcinoma, locked in his capsule, non-invasive, which can remain in this stage for a long time and even regress.

The clinical and social psychologist Luigi De Marchi, author of numerous essays known internationally, also confirms that cancer is not necessary lethal: "It isn’t odd that, in the autopsies on the bodies of the old farmers living in our most remote valleys, I found tumors naturally regressed and neutralised by the body itself: they are all people who were healed by one of their tumors and then they died for other reasons totally independent from any tumor pathology. " Exposing his doubts about the usefulness of diagnosis and cancer treatments, De Marchi ( 2 ) wonders: "If the highly ballyhooed diffusion of cancerous diseases in the recent decades throughout the western world could be an optical illusion, produced by the diffusion of early diagnosis of cancers that once went unnoticed and regressed naturally? And if the so trumpeted increase in cancer death was only the result of the scare to death caused by the early diagnosis and by the terrifying climate of the hospitals, or by the debilitation and intoxication produced by invasive, traumatic and toxic therapies used by the official Medicine?

Therefore, if all this was the outcome for the block caused by the anguish that diagnosis and therapies cause to the natural processes of healing and regression of tumors?'. Of course , we know that in the course of life it is "normal" to develop tumors, the same medicine knows that there are thousands of cancer cells produced by the body every day. They are later destroyed and/or swallowed up by the immune system when the body is working properly. Many cancers can regress even if our vital and healing energy (Vis Naturae Medicratix ) is free to act. But what happens to the vital mechanism of self-healing, if after a cancer diagnosis life is literally shocked by the information of the disease? It happens that the power is given to the disease rather than to the possibility of healing. And as Quantum Physics teaches us that the observer changes the observed and our reality depends on the "possibility" that we choose within the field, here is that the tumor is automatically strengthened.

Furthermore, at a biochemical level, we must not forget that chemotherapy destroys all the cells that are quickly reproducing themselves, such as cancerous ones, but also those of the immune system. Here’s how chemotherapy eliminates sick cells, but also those that should heal us. In fact, at best, chemotherapy can counteract the 80 % of the tumor, and the remaining 20 % will be eradicated only and ever by our body. Undergo a session of chemotherapy is therefore not always so favourable, especially in light of the fact that today we known that chemotherapies are a concurrent cause in the tumor’s growth. Any examples? An extensive research conducted for 23 years by prof. Hardin B. Jones, a physiologist at the University of California, in addition to reporting the use of falsified statistics, also proved that cancer patients who are NOT undergo to the three canonical therapies ( chemo, radio and surgery) survive longer or at least no less than those who receive these therapies.

( 3 ) Prof. Jones has shown that women suffering from breast cancer who refused conventional therapies showed a median survival of 12 years and a half, four times longer than that of three years reached by those who are subjected to comprehensive cares. ( 4 ) Another study published in The Lancet of 13.12.1975 (concerning 188 patients with inoperable bronchial carcinoma) shows that the average life of those treated with chemotherapy was 75 days, while those who received no treatments had a median survival of 120 days.

Feeling good about yourself: Feeling good about yourself is an arrival point, but first of all you shall ask yourself: who am I? And when I answer: I am a part of the Universe, a cell of a wonderful body, a grain of sand, I’m not here by accident, then you have done the most. Because I will not be okay with myself joining the community or bagging the approval of the others, but only when - driven by my nature, my existence who speaks through my instinct – I will intimately know that I have done what it was right to be done and I will feel a tangible Harmony in me. What can disturb that harmony? Always the society’s eye, always the eye of the other, always the expectations that I have not realized and the following disappointments after the failures of my expectations.

All this moves me to destabilization and I will not feel good about myself. Feeling good about ourselves is a state of grace that must be pursued as we have the tools to stay healthy. When we try these tools we must be aware of not being able to find them in our mind or in an external technique, temporary: we have to look for them, wanting to join ourselves with the awareness of being a part of the whole. It may seem a question that rotate on itself, and in a sense it is like that, because if I identify myself in my personality, if

I have social needs, expectations that must be met, the achievement of feeling good about myself will go through the procedures always susceptible to ups and downs, as I always will be relied on others, to the results that I can achieve and the impact that I have on the others, how other people look at me, how they judge me: I will be satisfied with myself when I have their approval and unsatisfied when I will not have it. If I behave as an energetic individual that makes many experiments with no other goal in life than to be able to understand me, then I will be satisfied, pleased when I’ll find the answers free of expectations out of that of living in harmony. This harmony will be tangible in the moment when I will take away from my life everything is external. The externality can be an incentive to reflect but not to be restricted. If another person sees me differently than I see myself he doesn’t have automatically right, but he just makes me think; then after reflection if I get back to the idea I had about myself and that it is different from the one expressed by that person, peacefully I have to continue to be myself.

So feeling good about ourselves goes beyond the acceptance of the others, beyond the approval of society and even beyond the results we achieve with our actions: I may have a very disappointing result in a practical field, but in my act, in carrying out that situation I have lavished so much knowledge of myself, so right and positive intention, that in the end I’ll be more than pleased by the outcoming energy, even when the practical result should be disappointing. At this point, however, I'll be fine, even if to the other’s eyes I can seem a failure, a turncoat or a not reliable person