Feeling good about yourself
Feeling good about yourself:
Feeling good about yourself is an arrival point, but first of all you shall ask yourself: who am I? And when I answer: I am a part of the Universe, a cell of a wonderful body, a grain of sand, I’m not here by accident, then you have done the most.
Because I will not be okay with myself joining the community or bagging the approval of the others, but only when - driven by my nature, my existence who speaks through my instinct – I will intimately know that I have done what it was right to be done and I will feel a tangible Harmony in me.
What can disturb that harmony? Always the society’s eye, always the eye of the other, always the expectations that I have not realized and the following disappointments after the failures of my expectations. All this moves me to destabilization and I will not feel good about myself. Feeling good about ourselves is a state of grace that must be pursued as we have the tools to stay healthy. When we try these tools we must be aware of not being able to find them in our mind or in an external technique, temporary: we have to look for them, wanting to join ourselves with the awareness of being a part of the whole.
It may seem a question that rotate on itself, and in a sense it is like that, because if I identify myself in my personality, if I have social needs, expectations that must be met, the achievement of feeling good about myself will go through the procedures always susceptible to ups and downs, as I always will be relied on others, to the results that I can achieve and the impact that I have on the others, how other people look at me, how they judge me: I will be satisfied with myself when I have their approval and unsatisfied when I will not have it.
If I behave as an energetic individual that makes many experiments with no other goal in life than to be able to understand me, then I will be satisfied, pleased when I’ll find the answers free of expectations out of that of living in harmony. This harmony will be tangible in the moment when I will take away from my life everything is external.
The externality can be an incentive to reflect but not to be restricted. If another person sees me differently than I see myself he doesn’t have automatically right, but he just makes me think; then after reflection if I get back to the idea I had about myself and that it is different from the one expressed by that person, peacefully I have to continue to be myself.
So feeling good about ourselves goes beyond the acceptance of the others, beyond the approval of society and even beyond the results we achieve with our actions: I may have a very disappointing result in a practical field, but in my act, in carrying out that situation I have lavished so much knowledge of myself, so right and positive intention, that in the end I’ll be more than pleased by the outcoming energy, even when the practical result should be disappointing.
At this point, however, I'll be fine, even if to the other’s eyes I can seem a failure, a turncoat or a not reliable person